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Winning Therapy

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	Also see:		Also see:
	- “Why Does He Do That?”		*“Why Does He Do That?” By Lundy Bancroft
	- “The Gift of Fear”		*“The Gift of Fear”

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Winning Therapy

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	I also call this “FDS Therapy”, as a nod to Female Dating Strategy.		I also call this “FDS Therapy”, as a nod to Female Dating Strategy.

			Identifying manipulation tactics that were used against you.

	Also see:		Also see:
	- “Why Does He Do That?”		- “Why Does He Do That?”
	- “The Gift of Fear”		- “The Gift of Fear”

Gynergy at 02:28, 1 November 2025

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	I also call this “FDS Therapy”, as a nod to Female Dating Strategy.		I also call this “FDS Therapy”, as a nod to Female Dating Strategy.

			Also see:
			- “Why Does He Do That?”
			- “The Gift of Fear”

Gynergy at 01:37, 1 November 2025

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	I personally take a non-literal view of IFS. I think it does a very clever thing by taking advantage of our human ability to anthropomorphize parts of our universe, which allows us to relate to those things using our incredibly advanced brain circuitry that is devoted to social connection and bonding. In this case, we anthropomorphize parts of our mind: ingrained thought-habits, repetitive learned behaviors, lessons we have learned or think we have learned. Then, we can extend love to these things in the same way that we extend love to another person.		I personally take a non-literal view of IFS. I think it does a very clever thing by taking advantage of our human ability to anthropomorphize parts of our universe, which allows us to relate to those things using our incredibly advanced brain circuitry that is devoted to social connection and bonding. In this case, we anthropomorphize parts of our mind: ingrained thought-habits, repetitive learned behaviors, lessons we have learned or think we have learned. Then, we can extend love to these things in the same way that we extend love to another person.

	I think that representing ~~thse~~ thought-patterns as people worthy of love allows us to engage with them in a way that is profound and effective for healing. We can't experience our own thought patterns in their true form, so ~~anyway~~ we engage with them requires us to project a form onto them. This version feels more effective and respectful to me than some of the other common forms, ~~such~~ as interpreting our thought patterns as Computer programs running on our brain, which is thin represented as a machine.		I think that representing my thought-patterns as people worthy of love allows me to engage with them in a way that is profound and effective for healing. We can't experience our own thought patterns in their true form, so any way we engage with them requires us to project a form onto them.

			This version feels more effective and respectful to me than some of the other common forms I’ve encountered in therapy. “Lizard brain” or computer program, or “gremlin”. as interpreting our thought patterns as Computer programs running on our brain, which is thin represented as a machine.

	There is a helpful play-acting here. Have you ever struggled to understand or articulate something about yourself, then engaged in play therapy where you represent yourself as a character, toy, or puppet? It can be difficult to wrap your head around something like		There is a helpful play-acting here. Have you ever struggled to understand or articulate something about yourself, then engaged in play therapy where you represent yourself as a character, toy, or puppet? It can be difficult to wrap your head around something like
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	=Adult Children of Alcoholics=		=Adult Children of Alcoholics=

	Not just for actual kids of alcoholics! The great majority of ACOA resources are equally helpful for people from many other types of family dysfunction.		Not just for actual kids of alcoholics! The great majority of ACOA resources are equally helpful for people from many other types of family dysfunction. I find ACOA resources incredibly helpful, even though neither of my parents have ever been alcoholics.

	=Winning Therapy=		=Winning Therapy=

	I also call this “FDS Therapy”, ~~for~~ Female Dating Strategy.		This is the name I made up for a specific healing process that works really well for me.

			I also call this “FDS Therapy”, as a nod to Female Dating Strategy.

Gynergy at 01:32, 1 November 2025

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	Two free books. Author says in the FAQ that she offers services if you contact her; I assume these are paid services. I have not read the books and can't vouch for them.		Two free books. Author says in the FAQ that she offers services if you contact her; I assume these are paid services. I have not read the books and can't vouch for them.

			=Adult Children of Alcoholics=

			Not just for actual kids of alcoholics! The great majority of ACOA resources are equally helpful for people from many other types of family dysfunction.

			=Winning Therapy=

			I also call this “FDS Therapy”, for Female Dating Strategy.

Gynergy at 01:26, 1 November 2025

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			=Internal Family Systems=

			I personally take a non-literal view of IFS. I think it does a very clever thing by taking advantage of our human ability to anthropomorphize parts of our universe, which allows us to relate to those things using our incredibly advanced brain circuitry that is devoted to social connection and bonding. In this case, we anthropomorphize parts of our mind: ingrained thought-habits, repetitive learned behaviors, lessons we have learned or think we have learned. Then, we can extend love to these things in the same way that we extend love to another person.

			I think that representing thse thought-patterns as people worthy of love allows us to engage with them in a way that is profound and effective for healing. We can't experience our own thought patterns in their true form, so anyway we engage with them requires us to project a form onto them. This version feels more effective and respectful to me than some of the other common forms, such as interpreting our thought patterns as Computer programs running on our brain, which is thin represented as a machine.

			There is a helpful play-acting here. Have you ever struggled to understand or articulate something about yourself, then engaged in play therapy where you represent yourself as a character, toy, or puppet? It can be difficult to wrap your head around something like

	===Summary of Jay Earley’s Book Self-Therapy===		===Summary of Jay Earley’s Book Self-Therapy===

Gynergy: Created page with "===Summary of Jay Earley’s Book Self-Therapy=== Contains a step-by-step guide to self-contained IFS. https://docs.google.com/document/d/e/2PACX-1vR9CIuxT_RLaDGIn_iE_75y9bgit58mGAGPtDixpdEcrsSPbE7IemgfJ8f9KT275Q/pub ===Integral Guide=== https://integralguide.com/About “ The Integral Guide is a choose-your-own-adventure field guide that I began writing to aid my personal trauma recovery and self-development and to feel empowered and better-equipped to lead an enri..."

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Created page with "===Summary of Jay Earley’s Book Self-Therapy=== Contains a step-by-step guide to self-contained IFS. https://docs.google.com/document/d/e/2PACX-1vR9CIuxT_RLaDGIn_iE_75y9bgit58mGAGPtDixpdEcrsSPbE7IemgfJ8f9KT275Q/pub ===Integral Guide=== https://integralguide.com/About “ The Integral Guide is a choose-your-own-adventure field guide that I began writing to aid my personal trauma recovery and self-development and to feel empowered and better-equipped to lead an enri..."

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===Summary of Jay Earley’s Book Self-Therapy===

Contains a step-by-step guide to self-contained IFS.

https://docs.google.com/document/d/e/2PACX-1vR9CIuxT_RLaDGIn_iE_75y9bgit58mGAGPtDixpdEcrsSPbE7IemgfJ8f9KT275Q/pub

===Integral Guide===

https://integralguide.com/About

“ The Integral Guide is a choose-your-own-adventure field guide that I began writing to aid my personal trauma recovery and self-development and to feel empowered and better-equipped to lead an enriched life.”

===Loving Awakening===
https://lovingawakening.net/
A Practical Guide to Embodied Spirituality and Healing with Metta, IFS, the Imaginal and Community

Two free books. Author says in the FAQ that she offers services if you contact her; I assume these are paid services. I have not read the books and can't vouch for them.