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She has had at least one significant experience with '''creepy leftist capture in her intellectual networks or values-based networks'''. This could be in a political group, at church, at a university, at work, in social justice advocacy, an arts community, etc. She feels a loss because of this. She may have also had experiences with conservative capture or "anti-woke left" capture. | She has had at least one significant experience with '''creepy leftist capture in her intellectual networks or values-based networks'''. This could be in a political group, at church, at a university, at work, in social justice advocacy, an arts community, etc. She feels a loss because of this. She may have also had experiences with conservative capture or "anti-woke left" capture. | ||
She is '''family-oriented'''. She wants to form a healthy, safe, good family, where she is respected and has opportunities to pursue her interests outside of the home. | She is '''family-oriented'''. She wants to form a healthy, safe, good family, where she is respected and has opportunities to pursue her interests outside of the home. She may have already found this, and values it highly. She may be single longterm because of a scarcity of opportunities. If she is straight, the problem is badly-behaved men; if the is gay, the problem is creepy leftist capture of lesbian communities. She wants to strategize with other women for how women collectively can find good spouses and form good families. | ||
She is concerned about the '''well-being of children''' because of issues like porn and gender ideology. If she has children, this problem is a primary driver for her. If she doesn't have children, it is probably a secondary driver. | She is concerned about the '''well-being of children''' because of issues like porn and gender ideology. If she has children, this problem is a primary driver for her. If she doesn't have children, it is probably a secondary driver. | ||
Revision as of 19:45, 9 May 2024
The Media Project
I probably won't name it "Gynergy". I just had the URL. But maybe I will?
Target Reader
Primary Traits
The target reader is a college-educated, middle-class Millennial woman. She is intelligent, passionate about the state of the world (especially women's rights), intellectually curious, a deep thinker, and inclined to spirituality.
Others describe her as smart, geeky, quirky, or as a "sensitive soul". People who know her well will flip through this magazine and immediately think of her.
She cares a lot about politics, but may not have found her feet for becoming politically engaged. If she does, she has a specific underutilized talent that makes her a high-value contributor.
She has had experiences with badly behaved men, including creepy behavior and intellectual dismissal. Fixing this system for herself and other women is a primary political driver for her.
She has had at least one significant experience with creepy leftist capture in her intellectual networks or values-based networks. This could be in a political group, at church, at a university, at work, in social justice advocacy, an arts community, etc. She feels a loss because of this. She may have also had experiences with conservative capture or "anti-woke left" capture.
She is family-oriented. She wants to form a healthy, safe, good family, where she is respected and has opportunities to pursue her interests outside of the home. She may have already found this, and values it highly. She may be single longterm because of a scarcity of opportunities. If she is straight, the problem is badly-behaved men; if the is gay, the problem is creepy leftist capture of lesbian communities. She wants to strategize with other women for how women collectively can find good spouses and form good families.
She is concerned about the well-being of children because of issues like porn and gender ideology. If she has children, this problem is a primary driver for her. If she doesn't have children, it is probably a secondary driver.
Three Driving Forces
The three driving forces we address, the things we care about more than we care about anything else, are: 1. Badly behaved men 2. Acceptance and respect in intellectual networks (this is challenged by sexist men and creepy leftism) 3. Protecting our children
Including number 3 is a deliberate choice. For most women who care about badly behaved men and intellectual networks, and who also have children, they care about their children the most. I love working with these women, and I want this project to provide value to them.
I also would like to have children, either biological children or stepchildren. If I do, I hope and assume that I will suddenly care more about helping and protecting them than I care about anything else. If this project takes off and forms a community, I want that community to be relevant to me at that stage in my life.
Secondary Traits
She wants to process this stuff with other women who get it, but she doesn't want to go deep into anger or obsession.
She may be a liberal-leaning woman who is "peaked" or "peaking", or she may be a conservative-leaning woman who is frustrated by some aspects of conservative leadership.
She is troubled by certain behaviors of feminist organizations: the aggressive push for inclusion of trans-identified males, and the promotion of sex work and hookup culture. She also has reservations about conservative leadership in regard to women's rights.
She may have a complicated relationship with her church of origin, whether or not she is still a member of the church. She is interested in discussing faith and theology with women who are members of other religions.
She has a nostalgia for some aspects of the past, but is vigilant about backsliding to the dark aspects of the past, especially for women.
She is enthusiastic about building bridges with women who disagree with her, but might need some help.
She considers herself a gay ally, or may be gay herself.
She cares a lot about politics, but has not yet made the leap to being active in politics. She may not have drawn the direct line yet between the changes she wants for the country and her own ability to go knock on doors. She could use a nudge, and a politically active community who gets her.
Splitter Traits
Don't spend a lot of words referring to our opponents on these things. We mostly stand on our own and make reasonable points in a friendly way. We choose fights strategically.
Strongly Gender-Critical / anti "woke"
Strongly critical of sexual harassment, coercion, manipulation, bad male behavior in general
Strongly critical of porn and hookup culture
Strongly critical of obnoxious men in anti-woke networks
Strongly anti oversimplified narratives about brain sex
Strongly pro collaboration between liberal and conservative women
Vigilant about the possibility of conservative backsliding on women's issues
Neutral on abortion
Our Network
Maintain OUR OWN center of gravity.
I don't want the people in St Pete to feel like this "came from the internet", or is Internetty. But I do need to tell them about FDS and Nina Paley.
Maintain just enough of a presence in online spaces that the women who are there can find us. Argue with them on Twitter; converse with them on Substack; be a guest on their podcast. But, maintain OUR OWN center of gravity that is elsewhere.
There are wonderful, brilliant, politically informed women who are socially isolated because of creepy leftist capture in intellectual and political networks.
Conservative and "anti-woke liberal" spaces are also captured in different ways. All of these spaces are fundamentally captured by male interests.
Places to maintain a presence: - Anti-woke networks - Feminist networks - Conservative women's networks - Arts and literature networks - Religious networks?
Purpose of the Project
I had several friends and authors who helped me see politics and culture in a new way, when I was making the journey from non-politically-active progressive loyalist to sort-of-politically-active nonpartisan feminist. I'd like to do a knowledge dump of all of that, plus other topics that I think will be relevant for that audience.
I love history, and would like to include a lot of content on the history of women and our political projects.
I'm also including mental health, mindfulness, and physical health as a topic, because a lot of women involved in this stuff need that.
When I write naturally, it comes out a little bit silly and very unserious, so I want to lean into that when it's appropriate (ie not on highly emotional or dark topics).
History: How Does Change Happen? What's Happening Next?
A History of Women, Gay People, and Gender-Diverse People in American Politics
Current Events
Politics: Who's Doing What, and How You Can Help Them
Civics, Institutional Power, and Social Change
Understanding Institutional Capture
Nonpartisan Feminism
Most of the ideas in here come from / were heavily inspired by Natasha Chart's book, Practical Politics for Bold Women. Buy it here! - https://chartconsulting.samcart.com/products/practical-politics-for-bold-women
What is the solution to capture of feminism by the left, and the possibility of future capture of women's organizations by the right? I think the best defense is small, fiercely independent women's organizations that know how to collaborate across ideological lines, but also are structured so that they can withdraw support, without incurring damage, when their needs are no longer being met by an old coalition.
Whatever network you are part of, they should feel like they have to be on their toes a little bit, because if they no longer hold up their end of the bargain, women's groups can walk away.
This also goes for organizing for LGB people and gender-diverse people.
Social Issues
Child Safeguarding
Domestic Violence and Sexual Violence
Commercial Sexual Exploitation
Women's Status:
In Public Spaces
In the Workplace
Financial Status
Public Leadership
Church
Compassion Topics
How Are Women And Men The Same, And How Are We Different?
Personal Strength
Mindfulness
Behavioral Health and Good Habits
THESE - Temperature, Hydration, Eating, Sleeping, Exercise
I made up this acronym during a time when I was *not* doing well, and I'm still proud of it.
Originally I used THESE BFUP, where THESE is physical stuff and BFUP is higher-level stuff. BFUP is Belonging, Fun, Unwinding, and Purpose. It's supposed to be pronounced "beef up", as in "These beef up your health and wellness!" I decided it was more memorable just as THESE.
My checklist
First, I go through the THESE checklist:
Temperature: Is it too warm or cold where I am?
Hydration: Do I need a glass of water, other beverage, or watery food?
I like water, but if you don't, you don't have to drink water. There's nothing magical about water that exists in a glass by itself. The water in diet root beer is the same water. Just watch out for sugar and caffeine.
You can also get water from eating fruit, but that's a slippery slope, because the water in the fruit is also used by your body to help digest the fruit, so you're getting less for hydration.
There is a melon that contains a lot of water. I'll leave it to you to guess which melon it is.
Eating: Have I eaten a moderate amount of healthy food today?
Sleeping: Have I slept enough?
Exercise: Have I gone on a nice walk, done some yoga, gone on a fun bike ride?
Boundaries and "Winning Therapy"
Trauma Healing
Physical Health
Healthy Skincare: Sunscreen, Makeup, Soap
Financial Health
Low-Effort Backyard Gardening in Central Florida
Social Health
How To Meet Friends Who Share Your Values
How To Navigate Friendships Across Ideological Lines
Spiritual Health
Faith and Theology
Women and the Major World Religions
Commentary on the Divine Feminine from the Major World Religions
An Atheist Lesbian Desister's Favorite Catholic Takes on Gender Ideology
ebony.clayton@yahoo.com - interview her!