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She is interested in information, theory, and strategy for all aspects of male entitlement and coercion: in her sex life, dating life, marriage, family life, and potential court issues in the case of divorce and custody battles. | She is interested in information, theory, and strategy for all aspects of male entitlement and coercion: in her sex life, dating life, marriage, family life, and potential court issues in the case of divorce and custody battles. | ||
She is concerned about the '''well-being of children''' because of issues like online porn and gender ideology, and also because of abuse of the family court system. If she has children, this is probably a primary driver for her. If she doesn't have children, it is probably a secondary driver. | |||
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'''She may or may not have a religious faith.''' If she does, she may have a complicated relationship with her church because of women's issues. She is interested in discussing women's takes on church life, faith, and theology, including with women who are members of other religions. | '''She may or may not have a religious faith.''' If she does, she may have a complicated relationship with her church because of women's issues. She is interested in discussing women's takes on church life, faith, and theology, including with women who are members of other religions. | ||
=== The Splitter Issues (See section below) === | |||
'''She may consider herself pro-choice or pro-life.''' Either way, she is concerned about "extreme", highly restrictive abortion laws. She may also be concerned about women being pressured into abortion. She is willing to befriend and ally with women who disagree with her on abortion. | '''She may consider herself pro-choice or pro-life.''' Either way, she is concerned about "extreme", highly restrictive abortion laws. She may also be concerned about women being pressured into abortion. She is willing to befriend and ally with women who disagree with her on abortion. | ||
'''She supports gay people and people who don't fit into gender norms, but she is troubled by the push for inclusion of trans-identified males in women's sports, changing rooms, etc.''' She desires an understanding of "what's going on" with the LGBT movement, and a way to feel a positive connection with gay people as a group while acknowledging the problems with the movement. | '''She supports gay people and people who don't fit into gender norms, but she is troubled by the push for inclusion of trans-identified males in women's sports, changing rooms, etc.''' She desires an understanding of "what's going on" with the LGBT movement, and a way to feel a positive connection with gay people as a group while acknowledging the problems with the movement. | ||
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She likes learning about '''women's power, intellect, and creative achievement across time and culture'''. Women's history, philosophy, literature, art. | She likes learning about '''women's power, intellect, and creative achievement across time and culture'''. Women's history, philosophy, literature, art. | ||
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She has had at least one significant experience with '''creepy leftist capture in her intellectual, professional, or values-based networks'''. This could be in a political group, at church, at a university, at work, in social justice advocacy, an arts community, etc. She may have also had experiences with conservative capture or "anti-woke left" capture. | She has had at least one significant experience with '''creepy leftist capture in her intellectual, professional, or values-based networks'''. This could be in a political group, at church, at a university, at work, in social justice advocacy, an arts community, etc. She may have also had experiences with conservative capture or "anti-woke left" capture. | ||
She strives to not spend her life on the Internet, and prefers face-to-face connection. | |||
== The Splitter Issues == | |||
== What We Do == | |||
The magazine provides a vision for the life our reader wants. | The magazine provides a vision for the life our reader wants. | ||
Revision as of 17:45, 17 May 2024
The Media Project
I probably won't name it "Gynergy". I just had the URL. But maybe I will?
Target Reader
The target reader is a college-educated, middle-class Millennial woman. She wants to spend some of her time enjoying the good life with other women who "get her", and some of her time getting information and theory on the root causes of problems that are bugging her.
Female Strategy
She has had experiences with entitled and manipulative men, including sexual harassment, potentially coercion and manipulation in relationships, and intellectual dismissal. She may be at various stages of "waking up" about this: recognizing that what happened was wrong, recognizing that it didn't happen in a vacuum, getting out of the "benefit of the doubt" mentality with an abuser, etc.
She is missing a coherent theory of male entitlement and manipulation that would explain her life experiences. Or, she remembers when it was missing, and she understands its importance.
She may be a recovering people-pleaser.
She is uncomfortable with the oversexualization of women in culture, but isn't sure how to address it. She is also uncomfortable with "purity culture" and concerned about being shamed or controlled in relation to her clothing and sexual behavior.
She may or may not be sexually active, have sex outside of committed relationships, etc. She's not looking for a hardcore ideology on this. She's a fairly sexually normal woman who wants to understand how to avoid gross or traumatic experiences with men.
She wants to talk about these things with other women like her, but not as part of an "exploited woman / helper organization" structure. She also doesn't want it to devolve into bitterness or obsession. She may be concerned about "going too far" and becoming unhappy.
She wants information and theory on the root causes of problems.
She is interested in information, theory, and strategy for all aspects of male entitlement and coercion: in her sex life, dating life, marriage, family life, and potential court issues in the case of divorce and custody battles.
She is concerned about the well-being of children because of issues like online porn and gender ideology, and also because of abuse of the family court system. If she has children, this is probably a primary driver for her. If she doesn't have children, it is probably a secondary driver.
Politics and Faith
She cares a lot about politics, but may not have found her feet for becoming politically engaged. She considers herself a bridge-builder and values respectful dialogue. She may identify as progressive because of their reputation for promoting gender equality and freedoms for women. She may identify as conservative due to their reputation for promoting family life, sex-based rights, and protections for children. She has reservations about the behavior of both parties. There may be one side that she considers to be the real enemy, and the other side that she considers to be basically good but in need of reform.
She may or may not have a religious faith. If she does, she may have a complicated relationship with her church because of women's issues. She is interested in discussing women's takes on church life, faith, and theology, including with women who are members of other religions.
The Splitter Issues (See section below)
She may consider herself pro-choice or pro-life. Either way, she is concerned about "extreme", highly restrictive abortion laws. She may also be concerned about women being pressured into abortion. She is willing to befriend and ally with women who disagree with her on abortion.
She supports gay people and people who don't fit into gender norms, but she is troubled by the push for inclusion of trans-identified males in women's sports, changing rooms, etc. She desires an understanding of "what's going on" with the LGBT movement, and a way to feel a positive connection with gay people as a group while acknowledging the problems with the movement.
Miscellaneous
She likes learning about women's power, intellect, and creative achievement across time and culture. Women's history, philosophy, literature, art.
She has had at least one significant experience with creepy leftist capture in her intellectual, professional, or values-based networks. This could be in a political group, at church, at a university, at work, in social justice advocacy, an arts community, etc. She may have also had experiences with conservative capture or "anti-woke left" capture.
She strives to not spend her life on the Internet, and prefers face-to-face connection.
The Splitter Issues
What We Do
The magazine provides a vision for the life our reader wants.
We also strategize about to solve the problems we all see happening. However, we do this from a base vision of a life that is already pretty good. Our aspirational reader is not in crisis, but she does see problems and wants to help solve them.
Our Network
Maintain OUR OWN center of gravity.
I don't want the people in St Pete to feel like this "came from the internet", or is Internetty. But I do need to tell them about FDS and Nina Paley.
Maintain just enough of a presence in online spaces that the women who are there can find us. Argue with them on Twitter; converse with them on Substack; be a guest on their podcast. But, maintain OUR OWN center of gravity that is elsewhere.
There are wonderful, brilliant, politically informed women who are socially isolated because of creepy leftist capture in intellectual and political networks.
Conservative and "anti-woke liberal" spaces are also captured in different ways. All of these spaces are fundamentally captured by male interests.
Places to maintain a presence: - Anti-woke networks - Feminist networks - Conservative women's networks - Arts and literature networks - Religious networks?
Purpose of the Project
I had several friends and authors who helped me see politics and culture in a new way, when I was making the journey from non-politically-active progressive loyalist to sort-of-politically-active nonpartisan feminist. I'd like to do a knowledge dump of all of that, plus other topics that I think will be relevant for that audience.
I love history, and would like to include a lot of content on the history of women and our political projects.
I'm also including mental health, mindfulness, and physical health as a topic, because a lot of women involved in this stuff need that.
When I write naturally, it comes out a little bit silly, so I want to lean into that when it's appropriate (ie not on highly emotional or dark topics).
History: How Does Change Happen? What's Happening Next?
A History of Women, Gay People, and Gender-Diverse People in American Politics
Current Events
Politics: Who's Doing What, and How You Can Help Them
Civics, Institutional Power, and Social Change
Understanding Institutional Capture
Nonpartisan Feminism
Most of the ideas in here come from / were heavily inspired by Natasha Chart's book, Practical Politics for Bold Women. Buy it here! - https://chartconsulting.samcart.com/products/practical-politics-for-bold-women
What is the solution to capture of feminism by the left, and the possibility of future capture of women's organizations by the right? I think the best defense is small, fiercely independent women's organizations that know how to collaborate across ideological lines, but also are structured so that they can withdraw support, without incurring damage, when their needs are no longer being met by an old coalition.
Whatever network you are part of, they should feel like they have to be on their toes a little bit, because if they no longer hold up their end of the bargain, women's groups can walk away.
This also goes for organizing for LGB people and gender-diverse people.
Social Issues
Child Safeguarding
Domestic Violence and Sexual Violence
Commercial Sexual Exploitation
Women's Status:
In Public Spaces
In the Workplace
Financial Status
Public Leadership
Church
Compassion Topics
How Are Women And Men The Same, And How Are We Different?
Personal Strength
Mindfulness
Behavioral Health and Good Habits
THESE - Temperature, Hydration, Eating, Sleeping, Exercise
I made up this acronym during a time when I was *not* doing well, and I'm still proud of it.
Originally I used THESE BFUP, where THESE is physical stuff and BFUP is higher-level stuff. BFUP is Belonging, Fun, Unwinding, and Purpose. It's supposed to be pronounced "beef up", as in "These beef up your health and wellness!" I decided it was more memorable just as THESE.
My checklist
First, I go through the THESE checklist:
Temperature: Is it too warm or cold where I am?
Hydration: Do I need a glass of water, other beverage, or watery food?
I like water, but if you don't, you don't have to drink water. There's nothing magical about water that exists in a glass by itself. The water in diet root beer is the same water. Just watch out for sugar and caffeine.
You can also get water from eating fruit, but that's a slippery slope, because the water in the fruit is also used by your body to help digest the fruit, so you're getting less for hydration.
There is a melon that contains a lot of water. I'll leave it to you to guess which melon it is.
Eating: Have I eaten a moderate amount of healthy food today?
Sleeping: Have I slept enough?
Exercise: Have I gone on a nice walk, done some yoga, gone on a fun bike ride?
Boundaries and "Winning Therapy"
Trauma Healing
Physical Health
Healthy Skincare: Sunscreen, Makeup, Soap
Financial Health
Low-Effort Backyard Gardening in Central Florida
Social Health
How To Meet Friends Who Share Your Values
How To Navigate Friendships Across Ideological Lines
Spiritual Health
Faith and Theology
Women and the Major World Religions
Commentary on the Divine Feminine from the Major World Religions
An Atheist Lesbian Desister's Favorite Catholic Takes on Gender Ideology
ebony.clayton@yahoo.com - interview her!