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= The Media Project =
My forties (and the tail end of my thirties) are for practical things, for building core memories with family and friends, and for building a sense of home.  Let creativity be a small part of it.


I probably won't name it "Gynergy".  I just had the URL.  But maybe I will?
=To Do=


== Target Reader ==
When you don’t have a realistic plan, you end up working inefficiently, which means you end up overworking.


I read in a book on branding that your "target customer" should be extremely specific.  Most of your customers will not have all of the traits of your target customer, but they will have some of the traits.
What are all the ways I am overworking?


The target reader is a college-educated Millennial woman. 


She may be a liberal-leaning woman who is "peaked" or "peaking", or she may be a conservative-leaning woman who is frustrated by some aspects of conservative leadership. 
Daily:
* Wake up, walk downtown and back, breakfast
* 2h Sophos, lunch, nap
* Up, 1h non-work work
* Free for social stuff and contemplating life


She is passionate about women's rights, but troubled by certain behaviors of feminist organizations: the aggressive push for inclusion of trans-identified males, and the promotion of sex work and hookup culture.  She also has reservations about conservative leadership in regard to women's rights.


She is intellectually curious, a deep thinker, and inclined to spirituality.  She may have a complicated relationship with her church of origin, whether or not she is still a member of the church.
This Week:
* Return exercise bike
* Gently address realistic discomfort at work
* Slowly enjoy and digest Built From Broken
* Skim and enjoy How To Listen So Kids Will Talk


She has a nostalgia for some aspects of the past, but doesn't want to go "all the way back".


She is enthusiastic about building bridges with women who disagree with her, but might need some help.
Current Priorities:
* Work: Assert myself, be physically ready for 2h focused work every day
* Health: Circadian Rhythm, Biomechanics, Better Blood
* Family & Kids: Create opportunities for listening and bonding
* Finance: Organize checking accounts, make unemployment plan (LOC)


She may have a personal history of trauma with men, which fuels her convictions about women's rights.
=Health=


She considers herself a gay ally, or may be gay herself.
[[Cardiac]]


She cares a lot about politics, but has not yet made the leap to being active in politics.  She may not have drawn the direct line yet between the changes she wants for the country and her own ability to go knock on doors.  She could use a nudge, and a politically active community who gets her.
[[Nominal Aphasia]]


[[Appt Notes]]


== Splitter Traits ==
[[Leg Pain]]


Don't spend a lot of words referring to our opponents on these things.  We mostly stand on our own and make reasonable points in a friendly way.  We choose fights strategically.
[[Gluteal Tendinopathy]]


Strongly Gender-Critical / anti "woke"
[[Metabolism]]


Strongly critical of sexual harassment, coercion, manipulation, bad male behavior in general
[[Supplements]]


Strongly critical of porn and hookup culture
[[Inner Wellness]]


Strongly critical of obnoxious men in anti-woke networks
==Food==


Strongly pro collaboration between liberal and conservative women
[[List of foods to remind me of variety]]


Strongly anti oversimplified narratives about brain sex
==Adaptive Devices==


== Our Network ==
[[Biomechanics and Movement]]


Maintain OUR OWN center of gravity.
[[Bunions]]


I don't want the people in St Pete to feel like this "came from the internet", or is Internetty.
===Home Environment===


Maintain just enough of a presence in online spaces that the women who are there can find us.  Argue with them on Twitter; converse with them on Substack.  But, maintain OUR OWN center of gravity that is elsewhere.
[[Active Sitting / Ergonomics]]


Places to maintain a presence:
[[Sunlight Computer]]
- Anti-woke networks
- Feminist networks
- Conservative women's networks
- Arts and literature networks
- Religious networks?


== Purpose of the Project ==
==Misc==


I had several friends and authors who helped me see politics and culture in a new way, when I was making the journey from non-politically-active progressive loyalist to sort-of-politically-active nonpartisan feminist.  I'd like to do a knowledge dump of all of that, plus other topics that I think will be relevant for that audience.
[[Airway]]


I love history, and would like to include a lot of content on the history of women and our political projects.
[[Leaky Gut]]


I'm also including mental health, mindfulness, and physical health as a topic, because a lot of women involved in this stuff need that.
=Better Blood=


When I write naturally, it comes out a little bit silly and very unserious, so I want to lean into that when it's appropriate (ie not on highly emotional or dark topics).
[[Legal Justice]]


= History: How Does Change Happen?  What's Happening Next? =
[[Better Blood]]


[[A History of Women, Gay People, and Gender-Diverse People in American Politics]]
=FinOps=


[[Side Trip: Aristasia]]
Once I am at the next level in my career and highly employable, explore routes to land jobs at places that satisfy the political do-gooder side of myself, and that offers me the same pay, benefits, and career security as private industry.  This is a moonshot: the one that makes sense for me to do.


= Current Events =
Life is short and hard even for the most fortunate of us. And that’s why, whatever you have chosen to work on, it has to be worthy of your time here. Because if you have any success at all, it will take up at least a decade of your life. And if you’re really lucky, you get to work on it for multiple decades.


= Politics: Who's Doing What, and How You Can Help Them =
I stopped by Austin for the FinOpsX conference, an amazing little thing put on by … maybe the Linux Foundation through some other community community, idk.


=== [[Civics, Institutional Power, and Social Change]] ===
Anyway, it was really amazing. Open source is just so much fun, I’m really glad that I found it all those years ago. This conference was smallish, like 400 people, but had all the open source vibes that the Drupal scene had back in the day, or the Python scene had the only time I dipped my toes in a few years back.


https://xkcd.com/1028/
John Grubb


==== Understanding Institutional Capture ====
Whatever you need to help you feel successful is helpful to get you to the place of being successful, as long as you don’t confuse it with success itself.


==== Nonpartisan Feminism ====
https://www.ignoredbydinosaurs.com/posts/success


Most of the ideas in here come from / were heavily inspired by Natasha Chart's book, Practical Politics for Bold Women.  Buy it here! - https://chartconsulting.samcart.com/products/practical-politics-for-bold-women
I work with a guy. He’s incredibly smart. He’s the seniormost developer here, and if you need to learn something new and get something large done, he’s the guy to do it. We basically dropped him off in the AWS jungle and told him to learn Hadoop and the entire Hadoop ecosystem for a data warehouse project and he did it.


What is the solution to capture of feminism by the left, and the possibility of future capture of women's organizations by the right?  I think the best defense is small, fiercely independent women's organizations that know how to collaborate across ideological lines, but also are structured so that they can withdraw support, without incurring damage, when their needs are no longer being met by an old coalition.
I work with another guy. He’s also incredibly smart. But he asks me for the answer before attempting to find it on his own more often than not. He’s got a point when he says “it’s a lot faster for me to just ask you rather than spend time trying to find it on my own”, because he’s here to do a job after all. I get that. But the best analogy I can come up with is a spin on the old adage -


Whatever network you are part of, they should feel like they have to be on their toes a little bit, because if they no longer hold up their end of the bargain, women's groups can walk away.
You can give a man a fish, and he eats for a day. You can teach a man to fish and he eats for a lifetime.


This also goes for organizing for LGB people and gender-diverse people.
There’s a third kind of person, though - the person who goes out and finds out about fishing on their own and then teaches themselves how to fish. This person will be your boss, and will always be employed.


= Social Issues =


Child Safeguarding


Domestic Violence and Sexual Violence


Commercial Sexual Exploitation


==Women's Status:==


In Public Spaces
=from Reddit =


In the Workplace
Its not that they hate recommendations, its that you have an opportunity to uplevel yourself and your skills - and it sounds like you really haven't taken it. Managing costs is one bucket of discipline. However, if we're truly measuring money, you have an opportunity to learn how to measure, execute and track on "opportunity cost".


Financial Status
Sure the engineering team can execute on recommendations to reduce recurring running costs. It is fiscally prudent and responsible in a vacuum. At the same time, features or revenue growth initiatives can be orders of magnitude more valuable than executing on cost reduction opportunities. If engineering allocates the time and resources (money) to reduce a recurring cost, it is at the expense of:


Public Leadership
The opportunity cost of not working on those other revenue growth initiatives.
The break-even return value of the recommendation (remember they've got to invest time to execute).
Here is the kicker for you - if you possess the skills to craft a single total ROI message in consideration of the two points above ; then you will naturally drop a chunk of your recommendations. The numbers will say its fiscally irresponsible to be investing on your existing "FinOps recommendations". At the same time, the recommendations you bring forward will generally have a high uptake rate because the break-even value is near term (weeks/days or yesterday) - or the opportunity cost of everything else is worse than missing out on those recurring savings. In the AWS-land, that usually centers around logging and CloudWatch usage where you can quickly realize 90% cost reductions in the magnitudes of hundreds of thousands with a break-even in less than 1 month.


Church
If you can do that - you'll have the foundations to compete for a CFO position within your career. If you cant - you will forever be relegated to the finance controller minion who will struggle to get their recommendations adopted by the other organizations. In the off-chance you make a CFO role, a fiscally responsible board will remove you when your aim is to save peanuts at the expense of missing out on acquiring a large customer base.


An analogy would be a hotel offering food services (breakfasts, lunches, dinners). There is a ton of food waste (possibly quite literally a ton).


Can they optimize? Yes.
Should they optimize for responsibility to society? Yes.
Should they do it fiscally? No.
Why? The revenue comes in from selling the room. The spoilage is fiscally insignificant. It is fiscally irresponsible for the company to invest in that waste reduction.


== Compassion Topics ==
=Finance =


[[Abortion]]
[[Finance]]


[[Saving Democracy]]
=Sparkle House=


[[How Are Women And Men The Same, And How Are We Different?]]
[[Sparkle House]]


= [[Personal Strength]] =
=Style & Grooming=


== Mindfulness ==
[[Style & Grooming]]


== Behavioral Health and Good Habits ==
=Friends=


THESE - Temperature, Hydration, Eating, Sleeping, Exercise
[[Friends]]


I made up this acronym during a time when I was *not* doing well, and I'm still proud of it.
=Writing=


Originally I used THESE BFUP, where THESE is physical stuff and BFUP is higher-level stuff.  BFUP is Belonging, Fun, Unwinding, and Purpose.  It's supposed to be pronounced "beef up", as in "These beef up your health and wellness!"  I decided it was more memorable just as THESE.
[[The Householders]]


[[The View From Sunshine City]]


=== My checklist ===
[[Other Writing]]


First, I go through the THESE checklist:  
Interview w JK Rowling: https://web.archive.org/web/20080623145514/www.scholastic.com/harrypotter/books/author/interview2.htm
 
'''Temperature''': Is it too warm or cold where I am? 
 
'''Hydration''': Do I need a glass of water, other beverage, or watery food? 
 
I like water, but if you don't, you don't have to drink water. There's nothing magical about water that exists in a glass by itself. The water in diet root beer is the same water. Just watch out for sugar and caffeine.
 
You can also get water from eating fruit, but that's a slippery slope, because the water in the fruit is also used by your body to help digest the fruit, so you're getting less for hydration. 
 
There is a melon that contains a lot of water.  I'll leave it to you to guess which melon it is.
 
'''Eating''': Have I eaten a moderate amount of healthy food today?
 
'''Sleeping''': Have I slept enough?
 
'''Exercise''': Have I gone on a nice walk, done some yoga, gone on a fun bike ride?
 
== Boundaries and "Winning Therapy" ==
 
== Trauma Healing ==
 
== Physical Health ==
 
[[Healthy Skincare: Sunscreen, Makeup, Soap]]
 
[[Health Tips For Fat Ladies]]
 
== Financial Health ==
 
=== [[Low-Effort Backyard Gardening in Central Florida]] ===
 
== Social Health ==
 
How To Meet Friends Who Share Your Values
 
How To Navigate Friendships Across Ideological Lines
 
== Spiritual Health ==
 
 
[[Temp Link]]
 
= [[Faith and Theology]] =
 
[[Women and the Major World Religions]]
 
[[Commentary on the Divine Feminine from the Major World Religions]]
 
[[Perennialism]]
 
[[Prehistoric Religion]]
 
[[Deanism and Filianism]]
 
[[An Atheist Lesbian Desister's Favorite Catholic Takes on Gender Ideology]]
 
ebony.clayton@yahoo.com - interview her!

Latest revision as of 01:08, 1 November 2025

My forties (and the tail end of my thirties) are for practical things, for building core memories with family and friends, and for building a sense of home. Let creativity be a small part of it.

To Do

When you don’t have a realistic plan, you end up working inefficiently, which means you end up overworking.

What are all the ways I am overworking?


Daily:

  • Wake up, walk downtown and back, breakfast
  • 2h Sophos, lunch, nap
  • Up, 1h non-work work
  • Free for social stuff and contemplating life


This Week:

  • Return exercise bike
  • Gently address realistic discomfort at work
  • Slowly enjoy and digest Built From Broken
  • Skim and enjoy How To Listen So Kids Will Talk


Current Priorities:

  • Work: Assert myself, be physically ready for 2h focused work every day
  • Health: Circadian Rhythm, Biomechanics, Better Blood
  • Family & Kids: Create opportunities for listening and bonding
  • Finance: Organize checking accounts, make unemployment plan (LOC)

Health

Cardiac

Nominal Aphasia

Appt Notes

Leg Pain

Gluteal Tendinopathy

Metabolism

Supplements

Inner Wellness

Food

List of foods to remind me of variety

Adaptive Devices

Biomechanics and Movement

Bunions

Home Environment

Active Sitting / Ergonomics

Sunlight Computer

Misc

Airway

Leaky Gut

Better Blood

Legal Justice

Better Blood

FinOps

Once I am at the next level in my career and highly employable, explore routes to land jobs at places that satisfy the political do-gooder side of myself, and that offers me the same pay, benefits, and career security as private industry. This is a moonshot: the one that makes sense for me to do.

Life is short and hard even for the most fortunate of us. And that’s why, whatever you have chosen to work on, it has to be worthy of your time here. Because if you have any success at all, it will take up at least a decade of your life. And if you’re really lucky, you get to work on it for multiple decades.

I stopped by Austin for the FinOpsX conference, an amazing little thing put on by … maybe the Linux Foundation through some other community community, idk.

Anyway, it was really amazing. Open source is just so much fun, I’m really glad that I found it all those years ago. This conference was smallish, like 400 people, but had all the open source vibes that the Drupal scene had back in the day, or the Python scene had the only time I dipped my toes in a few years back.

John Grubb

Whatever you need to help you feel successful is helpful to get you to the place of being successful, as long as you don’t confuse it with success itself.

https://www.ignoredbydinosaurs.com/posts/success

I work with a guy. He’s incredibly smart. He’s the seniormost developer here, and if you need to learn something new and get something large done, he’s the guy to do it. We basically dropped him off in the AWS jungle and told him to learn Hadoop and the entire Hadoop ecosystem for a data warehouse project and he did it.

I work with another guy. He’s also incredibly smart. But he asks me for the answer before attempting to find it on his own more often than not. He’s got a point when he says “it’s a lot faster for me to just ask you rather than spend time trying to find it on my own”, because he’s here to do a job after all. I get that. But the best analogy I can come up with is a spin on the old adage -

You can give a man a fish, and he eats for a day. You can teach a man to fish and he eats for a lifetime.

There’s a third kind of person, though - the person who goes out and finds out about fishing on their own and then teaches themselves how to fish. This person will be your boss, and will always be employed.




from Reddit

Its not that they hate recommendations, its that you have an opportunity to uplevel yourself and your skills - and it sounds like you really haven't taken it. Managing costs is one bucket of discipline. However, if we're truly measuring money, you have an opportunity to learn how to measure, execute and track on "opportunity cost".

Sure the engineering team can execute on recommendations to reduce recurring running costs. It is fiscally prudent and responsible in a vacuum. At the same time, features or revenue growth initiatives can be orders of magnitude more valuable than executing on cost reduction opportunities. If engineering allocates the time and resources (money) to reduce a recurring cost, it is at the expense of:

The opportunity cost of not working on those other revenue growth initiatives. The break-even return value of the recommendation (remember they've got to invest time to execute). Here is the kicker for you - if you possess the skills to craft a single total ROI message in consideration of the two points above ; then you will naturally drop a chunk of your recommendations. The numbers will say its fiscally irresponsible to be investing on your existing "FinOps recommendations". At the same time, the recommendations you bring forward will generally have a high uptake rate because the break-even value is near term (weeks/days or yesterday) - or the opportunity cost of everything else is worse than missing out on those recurring savings. In the AWS-land, that usually centers around logging and CloudWatch usage where you can quickly realize 90% cost reductions in the magnitudes of hundreds of thousands with a break-even in less than 1 month.

If you can do that - you'll have the foundations to compete for a CFO position within your career. If you cant - you will forever be relegated to the finance controller minion who will struggle to get their recommendations adopted by the other organizations. In the off-chance you make a CFO role, a fiscally responsible board will remove you when your aim is to save peanuts at the expense of missing out on acquiring a large customer base.

An analogy would be a hotel offering food services (breakfasts, lunches, dinners). There is a ton of food waste (possibly quite literally a ton).

Can they optimize? Yes. Should they optimize for responsibility to society? Yes. Should they do it fiscally? No. Why? The revenue comes in from selling the room. The spoilage is fiscally insignificant. It is fiscally irresponsible for the company to invest in that waste reduction.

Finance

Finance

Sparkle House

Sparkle House

Style & Grooming

Style & Grooming

Friends

Friends

Writing

The Householders

The View From Sunshine City

Other Writing

Interview w JK Rowling: https://web.archive.org/web/20080623145514/www.scholastic.com/harrypotter/books/author/interview2.htm

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