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= The Media Project =
My forties (and the tail end of my thirties) are for practical things, for building core memories with family and friends, and for building a sense of home.  Let creativity be a small part of it.


I probably won't name it "Gynergy".  I just had the URL.  But maybe I will?
=To Do=


== Target Reader ==
When you don’t have a realistic plan, you end up working inefficiently, which means you end up overworking.


I read in a book on branding that your "target customer" should be extremely specific.  Most of your customers will not have all of the traits of your target customer, but they will have some of the traits.
What are all the ways I am overworking?


The target reader is a college-educated, middle-class Millennial woman. 
=Routine=


She is passionate about women's issues, intellectually curious, a deep thinker, and inclined to spirituality.
Daily:
* 9am Wake up, bathroom, light breakfast, walk to water and back
* 10:30am 2h Sophos, some seated and some floor, with exercises
* 1pm Lunch, nap
* 2:30pm Tea, 2h other stuff
* 5:30pm Free for friends, etc


She has already had at least one significant experience with creepy leftist capture in one of her important networks. This could be in politics, at church, at a university, at work, in social justice advocacy, etc.
Weekday Stuff: Always includes time for gentle thinking on the topic.
* Monday: Gentle IFS and exploring tools for scrolling behavior
* Tuesday and Wednesday: Health and Patient Advocacy People
* Thursday: FinOps People, Idealist Tech Career People, or Budgeting
* Friday: ModCon Women’s Group


She may be a liberal-leaning woman who is "peaked" or "peaking", or she may be a conservative-leaning woman who is frustrated by some aspects of conservative leadership. 
Weekends Only:
* Weekend time only: Writing my short story or my politics timeline project


She is troubled by certain behaviors of feminist organizations: the aggressive push for inclusion of trans-identified males, and the promotion of sex work and hookup culture.  She also has reservations about conservative leadership in regard to women's rights.
==This Month: Do Things Moderately :) ==


She may have a complicated relationship with her church of origin, whether or not she is still a member of the church.  She is interested in discussing faith and theology with women who are members of other religions.
Consistently show up 2h/day at Sophos (time/effort)


She has a nostalgia for some aspects of the past, but doesn't want to go "all the way back".
Find comfortable adaptations and correct biomechanics for mildly wearing out my muscles (time/effort)


She is enthusiastic about building bridges with women who disagree with her, but might need some help.
Learn about bunion health and try different shoes


She may have a personal history of trauma with men, which fuels her convictions about women's rights.
Get into a turkey burger routine (time/effort)


She considers herself a gay ally, or may be gay herself.
Get into a comfortable and convenient vegetable routine


She cares a lot about politics, but has not yet made the leap to being active in politics.  She may not have drawn the direct line yet between the changes she wants for the country and her own ability to go knock on doors.  She could use a nudge, and a politically active community who gets her.
Seek support for internet scrolling issue


== Splitter Traits ==
Go to St. Pete Pier Pumpkin Patch and Gallagher’s Pumpkins & Christmas Trees


Don't spend a lot of words referring to our opponents on these things.  We mostly stand on our own and make reasonable points in a friendly way.  We choose fights strategically.
===Next…===


Strongly Gender-Critical / anti "woke"
Do Phillips heart monitor


Strongly critical of sexual harassment, coercion, manipulation, bad male behavior in general
Do mail in labs


Strongly critical of porn and hookup culture
Pursue imaging for my ankle


Strongly critical of obnoxious men in anti-woke networks
Listen to a couple chapters of IFS book (time/effort)


Strongly anti oversimplified narratives about brain sex
Interview two lawyers (time/effort)


Strongly pro collaboration between liberal and conservative women
Clear out guest bedroom for Mom; switch bed and treadmill (time/effort)


Vigilant about the possibility of conservative backsliding on women's issues
Do first ModCon women’s meetup (time/effort)


Neutral on abortion
Go to comedy night (time/effort)


== Our Network ==
Find source to buy zucchini / summer squash seeds


Maintain OUR OWN center of gravity.
==Next Month==


I don't want the people in St Pete to feel like this "came from the internet", or is Internetty.  But I do need to tell them about FDS and Nina Paley.
Stabilize my health habits


Maintain just enough of a presence in online spaces that the women who are there can find us.  Argue with them on Twitter; converse with them on Substack; be a guest on their podcast.  But, maintain OUR OWN center of gravity that is elsewhere.
Deepen in Biomechanics


There are wonderful, brilliant, politically informed women who are socially isolated because of creepy leftist capture in intellectual and political networks.
Pursue advanced medical care


Conservative and "anti-woke liberal" spaces are also captured in different ways.  All of these spaces are fundamentally captured by male interests.
Run ModCon women’s group


Places to maintain a presence:
Lose a lot of weight (effort)
- Anti-woke networks
- Feminist networks
- Conservative women's networks
- Arts and literature networks
- Religious networks?


== Purpose of the Project ==
Get pretty good at FinOps


I had several friends and authors who helped me see politics and culture in a new way, when I was making the journey from non-politically-active progressive loyalist to sort-of-politically-active nonpartisan feminist.  I'd like to do a knowledge dump of all of that, plus other topics that I think will be relevant for that audience.
Get house set up for housemate


I love history, and would like to include a lot of content on the history of women and our political projects.
Pursue justice


I'm also including mental health, mindfulness, and physical health as a topic, because a lot of women involved in this stuff need that.
See Ocala family on holidays


When I write naturally, it comes out a little bit silly and very unserious, so I want to lean into that when it's appropriate (ie not on highly emotional or dark topics).
Do some art and post it on social media


= History: How Does Change Happen?  What's Happening Next? =
==Don’t Overwork: Don’t Spend Effort On These Now==


[[A History of Women, Gay People, and Gender-Diverse People in American Politics]]
After stabilizing at Sophos, pursuing justice, and getting house set up: Become a decent thing doer for a few lawyers or doctors


[[Side Trip: Aristasia]]
=Health=


= Current Events =
[[Appt Notes]]


= Politics: Who's Doing What, and How You Can Help Them =
[[Leg Pain]]


=== [[Civics, Institutional Power, and Social Change]] ===
==Inner Wellness==


https://xkcd.com/1028/
IFS


==== Understanding Institutional Capture ====
==Food==


==== Nonpartisan Feminism ====
[[List of foods to remind me of variety]]


Most of the ideas in here come from / were heavily inspired by Natasha Chart's book, Practical Politics for Bold Women.  Buy it here! - https://chartconsulting.samcart.com/products/practical-politics-for-bold-women
==Adaptive Devices==


What is the solution to capture of feminism by the left, and the possibility of future capture of women's organizations by the right?  I think the best defense is small, fiercely independent women's organizations that know how to collaborate across ideological lines, but also are structured so that they can withdraw support, without incurring damage, when their needs are no longer being met by an old coalition.
[[Biomechanics and Movement]]


Whatever network you are part of, they should feel like they have to be on their toes a little bit, because if they no longer hold up their end of the bargain, women's groups can walk away.
[[Bunions]]


This also goes for organizing for LGB people and gender-diverse people.
===Home Environment===


= Social Issues =
[[Active Sitting / Ergonomics]]


Child Safeguarding
[[Sunlight Computer]]


Domestic Violence and Sexual Violence
==Misc==


Commercial Sexual Exploitation
[[Airway]]


==Women's Status:==
[[Leaky Gut]]


In Public Spaces
=Better Blood=


In the Workplace
[[Legal Justice]]


Financial Status
[[Better Blood]]


Public Leadership
=FinOps=


Church
Once I am at the next level in my career and highly employable, explore routes to land jobs at places that satisfy the political do-gooder side of myself, and that offers me the same pay, benefits, and career security as private industry.  This is a moonshot: the one that makes sense for me to do.


Life is short and hard even for the most fortunate of us. And that’s why, whatever you have chosen to work on, it has to be worthy of your time here. Because if you have any success at all, it will take up at least a decade of your life. And if you’re really lucky, you get to work on it for multiple decades.


I stopped by Austin for the FinOpsX conference, an amazing little thing put on by … maybe the Linux Foundation through some other community community, idk.


== Compassion Topics ==
Anyway, it was really amazing. Open source is just so much fun, I’m really glad that I found it all those years ago. This conference was smallish, like 400 people, but had all the open source vibes that the Drupal scene had back in the day, or the Python scene had the only time I dipped my toes in a few years back.


[[Abortion]]
John Grubb


[[Saving Democracy]]
Whatever you need to help you feel successful is helpful to get you to the place of being successful, as long as you don’t confuse it with success itself.


[[How Are Women And Men The Same, And How Are We Different?]]
https://www.ignoredbydinosaurs.com/posts/success


= [[Personal Strength]] =
I work with a guy. He’s incredibly smart. He’s the seniormost developer here, and if you need to learn something new and get something large done, he’s the guy to do it. We basically dropped him off in the AWS jungle and told him to learn Hadoop and the entire Hadoop ecosystem for a data warehouse project and he did it.


== Mindfulness ==
I work with another guy. He’s also incredibly smart. But he asks me for the answer before attempting to find it on his own more often than not. He’s got a point when he says “it’s a lot faster for me to just ask you rather than spend time trying to find it on my own”, because he’s here to do a job after all. I get that. But the best analogy I can come up with is a spin on the old adage -


== Behavioral Health and Good Habits ==
You can give a man a fish, and he eats for a day. You can teach a man to fish and he eats for a lifetime.


THESE - Temperature, Hydration, Eating, Sleeping, Exercise
There’s a third kind of person, though - the person who goes out and finds out about fishing on their own and then teaches themselves how to fish. This person will be your boss, and will always be employed.


I made up this acronym during a time when I was *not* doing well, and I'm still proud of it.
=Finance =


Originally I used THESE BFUP, where THESE is physical stuff and BFUP is higher-level stuff.  BFUP is Belonging, Fun, Unwinding, and Purpose.  It's supposed to be pronounced "beef up", as in "These beef up your health and wellness!"  I decided it was more memorable just as THESE.
[[Finance]]


=Sparkle House=


=== My checklist ===
[[Sparkle House]]


First, I go through the THESE checklist:
=Friends=


'''Temperature''': Is it too warm or cold where I am? 
[[Friends]]


'''Hydration''': Do I need a glass of water, other beverage, or watery food? 
= Other =
[[Places In St Pete]]


I like water, but if you don't, you don't have to drink water.  There's nothing magical about water that exists in a glass by itself.  The water in diet root beer is the same water.  Just watch out for sugar and caffeine. 
[[Old Front Page]]
 
You can also get water from eating fruit, but that's a slippery slope, because the water in the fruit is also used by your body to help digest the fruit, so you're getting less for hydration. 
 
There is a melon that contains a lot of water.  I'll leave it to you to guess which melon it is.
 
'''Eating''': Have I eaten a moderate amount of healthy food today?
 
'''Sleeping''': Have I slept enough?
 
'''Exercise''': Have I gone on a nice walk, done some yoga, gone on a fun bike ride?
 
== Boundaries and "Winning Therapy" ==
 
== Trauma Healing ==
 
== Physical Health ==
 
[[Healthy Skincare: Sunscreen, Makeup, Soap]]
 
[[Health Tips For Fat Ladies]]
 
== Financial Health ==
 
=== [[Low-Effort Backyard Gardening in Central Florida]] ===
 
== Social Health ==
 
How To Meet Friends Who Share Your Values
 
How To Navigate Friendships Across Ideological Lines
 
== Spiritual Health ==
 
 
[[Temp Link]]
 
= [[Faith and Theology]] =
 
[[Women and the Major World Religions]]
 
[[Commentary on the Divine Feminine from the Major World Religions]]
 
[[Perennialism]]
 
[[Prehistoric Religion]]
 
[[Deanism and Filianism]]
 
[[An Atheist Lesbian Desister's Favorite Catholic Takes on Gender Ideology]]
 
ebony.clayton@yahoo.com - interview her!

Latest revision as of 06:09, 3 October 2025

My forties (and the tail end of my thirties) are for practical things, for building core memories with family and friends, and for building a sense of home. Let creativity be a small part of it.

To Do

When you don’t have a realistic plan, you end up working inefficiently, which means you end up overworking.

What are all the ways I am overworking?

Routine

Daily:

  • 9am Wake up, bathroom, light breakfast, walk to water and back
  • 10:30am 2h Sophos, some seated and some floor, with exercises
  • 1pm Lunch, nap
  • 2:30pm Tea, 2h other stuff
  • 5:30pm Free for friends, etc

Weekday Stuff: Always includes time for gentle thinking on the topic.

  • Monday: Gentle IFS and exploring tools for scrolling behavior
  • Tuesday and Wednesday: Health and Patient Advocacy People
  • Thursday: FinOps People, Idealist Tech Career People, or Budgeting
  • Friday: ModCon Women’s Group

Weekends Only:

  • Weekend time only: Writing my short story or my politics timeline project

This Month: Do Things Moderately :)

Consistently show up 2h/day at Sophos (time/effort)

Find comfortable adaptations and correct biomechanics for mildly wearing out my muscles (time/effort)

Learn about bunion health and try different shoes

Get into a turkey burger routine (time/effort)

Get into a comfortable and convenient vegetable routine

Seek support for internet scrolling issue

Go to St. Pete Pier Pumpkin Patch and Gallagher’s Pumpkins & Christmas Trees

Next…

Do Phillips heart monitor

Do mail in labs

Pursue imaging for my ankle

Listen to a couple chapters of IFS book (time/effort)

Interview two lawyers (time/effort)

Clear out guest bedroom for Mom; switch bed and treadmill (time/effort)

Do first ModCon women’s meetup (time/effort)

Go to comedy night (time/effort)

Find source to buy zucchini / summer squash seeds

Next Month

Stabilize my health habits

Deepen in Biomechanics

Pursue advanced medical care

Run ModCon women’s group

Lose a lot of weight (effort)

Get pretty good at FinOps

Get house set up for housemate

Pursue justice

See Ocala family on holidays

Do some art and post it on social media

Don’t Overwork: Don’t Spend Effort On These Now

After stabilizing at Sophos, pursuing justice, and getting house set up: Become a decent thing doer for a few lawyers or doctors

Health

Appt Notes

Leg Pain

Inner Wellness

IFS

Food

List of foods to remind me of variety

Adaptive Devices

Biomechanics and Movement

Bunions

Home Environment

Active Sitting / Ergonomics

Sunlight Computer

Misc

Airway

Leaky Gut

Better Blood

Legal Justice

Better Blood

FinOps

Once I am at the next level in my career and highly employable, explore routes to land jobs at places that satisfy the political do-gooder side of myself, and that offers me the same pay, benefits, and career security as private industry. This is a moonshot: the one that makes sense for me to do.

Life is short and hard even for the most fortunate of us. And that’s why, whatever you have chosen to work on, it has to be worthy of your time here. Because if you have any success at all, it will take up at least a decade of your life. And if you’re really lucky, you get to work on it for multiple decades.

I stopped by Austin for the FinOpsX conference, an amazing little thing put on by … maybe the Linux Foundation through some other community community, idk.

Anyway, it was really amazing. Open source is just so much fun, I’m really glad that I found it all those years ago. This conference was smallish, like 400 people, but had all the open source vibes that the Drupal scene had back in the day, or the Python scene had the only time I dipped my toes in a few years back.

John Grubb

Whatever you need to help you feel successful is helpful to get you to the place of being successful, as long as you don’t confuse it with success itself.

https://www.ignoredbydinosaurs.com/posts/success

I work with a guy. He’s incredibly smart. He’s the seniormost developer here, and if you need to learn something new and get something large done, he’s the guy to do it. We basically dropped him off in the AWS jungle and told him to learn Hadoop and the entire Hadoop ecosystem for a data warehouse project and he did it.

I work with another guy. He’s also incredibly smart. But he asks me for the answer before attempting to find it on his own more often than not. He’s got a point when he says “it’s a lot faster for me to just ask you rather than spend time trying to find it on my own”, because he’s here to do a job after all. I get that. But the best analogy I can come up with is a spin on the old adage -

You can give a man a fish, and he eats for a day. You can teach a man to fish and he eats for a lifetime.

There’s a third kind of person, though - the person who goes out and finds out about fishing on their own and then teaches themselves how to fish. This person will be your boss, and will always be employed.

Finance

Finance

Sparkle House

Sparkle House

Friends

Friends

Other

Places In St Pete

Old Front Page

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