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| = The Media Project =
| | My forties (and the tail end of my thirties) are for practical things, for building core memories with family and friends, and for building a sense of home. Let creativity be a small part of it. |
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| == Target Reader ==
| | When you don’t have a realistic plan, you end up working inefficiently, which means you end up overworking. |
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| === Primary Traits ===
| | What are all the ways I am overworking? |
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| '''The target reader is a college-educated, middle-class Millennial woman. She is intelligent, passionate about the state of the world (especially women's rights), intellectually curious, a deep thinker, and inclined to spirituality.'''
| | =Routine= |
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| Others describe her as smart, geeky, quirky, or as a "sensitive soul". People who know her well will flip through this magazine and immediately think of her.
| | Daily: |
| | * 9am Wake up, bathroom, light breakfast, walk to water and back |
| | * 10:30am 2h Sophos, some seated and some floor, with exercises |
| | * 1pm Lunch, nap |
| | * 2:30pm Tea, 2h other stuff |
| | * 5:30pm Free for friends, etc |
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| She cares a lot about '''politics''', but may not have found her feet for becoming politically engaged. If she does, she has a specific underutilized talent that has the potential to do big things in whatever arena she chooses.
| | Weekday Stuff: Always includes time for gentle thinking on the topic. |
| | * Monday: Gentle IFS and exploring tools for scrolling behavior |
| | * Tuesday and Wednesday: Health and Patient Advocacy People |
| | * Thursday: FinOps People, Idealist Tech Career People, or Budgeting |
| | * Friday: ModCon Women’s Group |
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| She has had experiences with '''badly behaved men''', including creepy behavior and intellectual dismissal. Fixing this system for herself and other women is a primary political driver for her.
| | Weekends Only: |
| | * Weekend time only: Writing my short story or my politics timeline project |
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| She has had at least one significant experience with '''creepy leftist capture in her intellectual networks or values-based networks'''. This could be in a political group, at church, at a university, at work, in social justice advocacy, an arts community, etc. She feels a loss because of this. She may have also had experiences with conservative capture or "anti-woke left" capture.
| | ==This Month: Do Things Moderately :) == |
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| She is '''family-oriented'''. She wants to form a healthy, safe, good family, where she is respected and has opportunities to pursue her interests outside of the home. Or, she may have already found this, and values it highly. She wants to strategize with other women for how women collectively can find this.
| | Consistently show up 2h/day at Sophos (time/effort) |
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| She is concerned about the '''well-being of children''' because of issues like porn and gender ideology. If she has children, this problem is a primary driver for her. If she doesn't have children, it is probably a secondary driver.
| | Find comfortable adaptations and correct biomechanics for mildly wearing out my muscles (time/effort) |
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| === Three Driving Forces ===
| | Learn about bunion health and try different shoes |
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| The three driving forces we address, the things we care about more than we care about anything else, are:
| | Get into a turkey burger routine (time/effort) |
| 1. Badly behaved men
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| 2. Acceptance and respect in intellectual networks (this is challenged by sexist men and creepy leftism)
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| 3. Protecting our children
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| Including number 3 is a deliberate choice. For most women who care about badly behaved men and intellectual networks, and who also have children, they care about their children the most. I love working with these women, and I want this project to provide value to them.
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| I also would like to have children, either biological children or stepchildren. If I do, I hope and assume that I will suddenly care more about helping and protecting them than I care about anything else. If this project takes off and forms a community, I want that community to be relevant to me at that stage in my life.
| | Seek support for internet scrolling issue |
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| === Secondary Traits ===
| | Go to St. Pete Pier Pumpkin Patch and Gallagher’s Pumpkins & Christmas Trees |
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| She wants to process this stuff with other women who get it, but she doesn't want to go deep into anger or obsession.
| | ===Next…=== |
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| She may be a liberal-leaning woman who is "peaked" or "peaking", or she may be a conservative-leaning woman who is frustrated by some aspects of conservative leadership.
| | Do Phillips heart monitor |
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| She is troubled by certain behaviors of feminist organizations: the aggressive push for inclusion of trans-identified males, and the promotion of sex work and hookup culture. She also has reservations about conservative leadership in regard to women's rights.
| | Do mail in labs |
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| She may have a complicated relationship with her church of origin, whether or not she is still a member of the church. She is interested in discussing faith and theology with women who are members of other religions.
| | Pursue imaging for my ankle |
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| She has a nostalgia for some aspects of the past, but is vigilant about backsliding to the dark aspects of the past, especially for women.
| | Listen to a couple chapters of IFS book (time/effort) |
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| She is enthusiastic about building bridges with women who disagree with her, but might need some help.
| | Interview two lawyers (time/effort) |
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| She considers herself a gay ally, or may be gay herself.
| | Clear out guest bedroom for Mom; switch bed and treadmill (time/effort) |
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| She cares a lot about politics, but has not yet made the leap to being active in politics. She may not have drawn the direct line yet between the changes she wants for the country and her own ability to go knock on doors. She could use a nudge, and a politically active community who gets her.
| | Do first ModCon women’s meetup (time/effort) |
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| == Splitter Traits ==
| | Go to comedy night (time/effort) |
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| Don't spend a lot of words referring to our opponents on these things. We mostly stand on our own and make reasonable points in a friendly way. We choose fights strategically.
| | Find source to buy zucchini / summer squash seeds |
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| Strongly Gender-Critical / anti "woke"
| | ==Next Month== |
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| Strongly critical of sexual harassment, coercion, manipulation, bad male behavior in general
| | Stabilize my health habits |
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| Strongly critical of porn and hookup culture
| | Deepen in Biomechanics |
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| Strongly critical of obnoxious men in anti-woke networks
| | Pursue advanced medical care |
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| Strongly anti oversimplified narratives about brain sex
| | Run ModCon women’s group |
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| Strongly pro collaboration between liberal and conservative women
| | Lose a lot of weight (effort) |
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| Vigilant about the possibility of conservative backsliding on women's issues
| | Get pretty good at FinOps |
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| Neutral on abortion
| | Get house set up for housemate |
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| == Our Network ==
| | Pursue justice |
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| Maintain OUR OWN center of gravity.
| | See Ocala family on holidays |
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| I don't want the people in St Pete to feel like this "came from the internet", or is Internetty. But I do need to tell them about FDS and Nina Paley.
| | Do some art and post it on social media |
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| Maintain just enough of a presence in online spaces that the women who are there can find us. Argue with them on Twitter; converse with them on Substack; be a guest on their podcast. But, maintain OUR OWN center of gravity that is elsewhere.
| | ==Don’t Overwork: Don’t Spend Effort On These Now== |
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| There are wonderful, brilliant, politically informed women who are socially isolated because of creepy leftist capture in intellectual and political networks.
| | After stabilizing at Sophos, pursuing justice, and getting house set up: Become a decent thing doer for a few lawyers or doctors |
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| Conservative and "anti-woke liberal" spaces are also captured in different ways. All of these spaces are fundamentally captured by male interests.
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| Places to maintain a presence:
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| - Anti-woke networks
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| - Feminist networks
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| - Conservative women's networks
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| - Arts and literature networks
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| - Religious networks?
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| == Purpose of the Project ==
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| I had several friends and authors who helped me see politics and culture in a new way, when I was making the journey from non-politically-active progressive loyalist to sort-of-politically-active nonpartisan feminist. I'd like to do a knowledge dump of all of that, plus other topics that I think will be relevant for that audience.
| | ==Inner Wellness== |
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| I love history, and would like to include a lot of content on the history of women and our political projects.
| | IFS |
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| I'm also including mental health, mindfulness, and physical health as a topic, because a lot of women involved in this stuff need that.
| | ==Food== |
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| When I write naturally, it comes out a little bit silly and very unserious, so I want to lean into that when it's appropriate (ie not on highly emotional or dark topics).
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| = History: How Does Change Happen? What's Happening Next? = | | ==Adaptive Devices== |
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| [[A History of Women, Gay People, and Gender-Diverse People in American Politics]] | | [[Biomechanics and Movement]] |
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| [[Side Trip: Aristasia]] | | [[Bunions]] |
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| = Current Events = | | ===Home Environment=== |
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| = Politics: Who's Doing What, and How You Can Help Them =
| | [[Active Sitting / Ergonomics]] |
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| === [[Civics, Institutional Power, and Social Change]] ===
| | [[Sunlight Computer]] |
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| https://xkcd.com/1028/
| | ==Misc== |
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| ==== Understanding Institutional Capture ====
| | [[Airway]] |
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| ==== Nonpartisan Feminism ====
| | [[Leaky Gut]] |
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| Most of the ideas in here come from / were heavily inspired by Natasha Chart's book, Practical Politics for Bold Women. Buy it here! - https://chartconsulting.samcart.com/products/practical-politics-for-bold-women
| | =Better Blood= |
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| What is the solution to capture of feminism by the left, and the possibility of future capture of women's organizations by the right? I think the best defense is small, fiercely independent women's organizations that know how to collaborate across ideological lines, but also are structured so that they can withdraw support, without incurring damage, when their needs are no longer being met by an old coalition.
| | [[Legal Justice]] |
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| Whatever network you are part of, they should feel like they have to be on their toes a little bit, because if they no longer hold up their end of the bargain, women's groups can walk away.
| | [[Better Blood]] |
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| This also goes for organizing for LGB people and gender-diverse people.
| | =FinOps= |
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| = Social Issues =
| | Once I am at the next level in my career and highly employable, explore routes to land jobs at places that satisfy the political do-gooder side of myself, and that offers me the same pay, benefits, and career security as private industry. This is a moonshot: the one that makes sense for me to do. |
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| Child Safeguarding
| | Life is short and hard even for the most fortunate of us. And that’s why, whatever you have chosen to work on, it has to be worthy of your time here. Because if you have any success at all, it will take up at least a decade of your life. And if you’re really lucky, you get to work on it for multiple decades. |
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| Domestic Violence and Sexual Violence
| | I stopped by Austin for the FinOpsX conference, an amazing little thing put on by … maybe the Linux Foundation through some other community community, idk. |
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| Commercial Sexual Exploitation
| | Anyway, it was really amazing. Open source is just so much fun, I’m really glad that I found it all those years ago. This conference was smallish, like 400 people, but had all the open source vibes that the Drupal scene had back in the day, or the Python scene had the only time I dipped my toes in a few years back. |
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| ==Women's Status:==
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| In Public Spaces
| | Whatever you need to help you feel successful is helpful to get you to the place of being successful, as long as you don’t confuse it with success itself. |
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| In the Workplace
| | https://www.ignoredbydinosaurs.com/posts/success |
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| Financial Status
| | I work with a guy. He’s incredibly smart. He’s the seniormost developer here, and if you need to learn something new and get something large done, he’s the guy to do it. We basically dropped him off in the AWS jungle and told him to learn Hadoop and the entire Hadoop ecosystem for a data warehouse project and he did it. |
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| Public Leadership
| | I work with another guy. He’s also incredibly smart. But he asks me for the answer before attempting to find it on his own more often than not. He’s got a point when he says “it’s a lot faster for me to just ask you rather than spend time trying to find it on my own”, because he’s here to do a job after all. I get that. But the best analogy I can come up with is a spin on the old adage - |
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| | You can give a man a fish, and he eats for a day. You can teach a man to fish and he eats for a lifetime. |
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| | There’s a third kind of person, though - the person who goes out and finds out about fishing on their own and then teaches themselves how to fish. This person will be your boss, and will always be employed. |
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| | =Finance = |
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| == Compassion Topics ==
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| [[Abortion]]
| | =Sparkle House= |
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| [[Saving Democracy]] | | [[Sparkle House]] |
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| [[How Are Women And Men The Same, And How Are We Different?]]
| | =Friends= |
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| = [[Personal Strength]] =
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| == Mindfulness == | | = Other = |
| | [[Places In St Pete]] |
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| == Behavioral Health and Good Habits ==
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| THESE - Temperature, Hydration, Eating, Sleeping, Exercise
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| I made up this acronym during a time when I was *not* doing well, and I'm still proud of it.
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| Originally I used THESE BFUP, where THESE is physical stuff and BFUP is higher-level stuff. BFUP is Belonging, Fun, Unwinding, and Purpose. It's supposed to be pronounced "beef up", as in "These beef up your health and wellness!" I decided it was more memorable just as THESE.
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| === My checklist ===
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| First, I go through the THESE checklist:
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| '''Temperature''': Is it too warm or cold where I am?
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| '''Hydration''': Do I need a glass of water, other beverage, or watery food?
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| I like water, but if you don't, you don't have to drink water. There's nothing magical about water that exists in a glass by itself. The water in diet root beer is the same water. Just watch out for sugar and caffeine.
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| '''Eating''': Have I eaten a moderate amount of healthy food today?
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| '''Sleeping''': Have I slept enough?
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| '''Exercise''': Have I gone on a nice walk, done some yoga, gone on a fun bike ride?
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| == Boundaries and "Winning Therapy" ==
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| == Trauma Healing ==
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| [[Healthy Skincare: Sunscreen, Makeup, Soap]] | |
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| [[Health Tips For Fat Ladies]]
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| == Financial Health ==
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| === [[Low-Effort Backyard Gardening in Central Florida]] ===
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| == Social Health ==
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| How To Meet Friends Who Share Your Values
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| How To Navigate Friendships Across Ideological Lines
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| == Spiritual Health ==
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| [[Temp Link]]
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| = [[Faith and Theology]] =
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| [[Women and the Major World Religions]]
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| [[Commentary on the Divine Feminine from the Major World Religions]]
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| [[Perennialism]]
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| [[Prehistoric Religion]]
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| [[Deanism and Filianism]]
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| [[An Atheist Lesbian Desister's Favorite Catholic Takes on Gender Ideology]]
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| ebony.clayton@yahoo.com - interview her!
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My forties (and the tail end of my thirties) are for practical things, for building core memories with family and friends, and for building a sense of home. Let creativity be a small part of it.
To Do
When you don’t have a realistic plan, you end up working inefficiently, which means you end up overworking.
What are all the ways I am overworking?
Routine
Daily:
- 9am Wake up, bathroom, light breakfast, walk to water and back
- 10:30am 2h Sophos, some seated and some floor, with exercises
- 1pm Lunch, nap
- 2:30pm Tea, 2h other stuff
- 5:30pm Free for friends, etc
Weekday Stuff: Always includes time for gentle thinking on the topic.
- Monday: Gentle IFS and exploring tools for scrolling behavior
- Tuesday and Wednesday: Health and Patient Advocacy People
- Thursday: FinOps People, Idealist Tech Career People, or Budgeting
- Friday: ModCon Women’s Group
Weekends Only:
- Weekend time only: Writing my short story or my politics timeline project
This Month: Do Things Moderately :)
Consistently show up 2h/day at Sophos (time/effort)
Find comfortable adaptations and correct biomechanics for mildly wearing out my muscles (time/effort)
Learn about bunion health and try different shoes
Get into a turkey burger routine (time/effort)
Get into a comfortable and convenient vegetable routine
Seek support for internet scrolling issue
Go to St. Pete Pier Pumpkin Patch and Gallagher’s Pumpkins & Christmas Trees
Next…
Do Phillips heart monitor
Do mail in labs
Pursue imaging for my ankle
Listen to a couple chapters of IFS book (time/effort)
Interview two lawyers (time/effort)
Clear out guest bedroom for Mom; switch bed and treadmill (time/effort)
Do first ModCon women’s meetup (time/effort)
Go to comedy night (time/effort)
Find source to buy zucchini / summer squash seeds
Next Month
Stabilize my health habits
Deepen in Biomechanics
Pursue advanced medical care
Run ModCon women’s group
Lose a lot of weight (effort)
Get pretty good at FinOps
Get house set up for housemate
Pursue justice
See Ocala family on holidays
Do some art and post it on social media
Don’t Overwork: Don’t Spend Effort On These Now
After stabilizing at Sophos, pursuing justice, and getting house set up: Become a decent thing doer for a few lawyers or doctors
Health
Appt Notes
Leg Pain
Inner Wellness
IFS
Food
List of foods to remind me of variety
Adaptive Devices
Biomechanics and Movement
Bunions
Home Environment
Active Sitting / Ergonomics
Sunlight Computer
Misc
Airway
Leaky Gut
Better Blood
Legal Justice
Better Blood
FinOps
Once I am at the next level in my career and highly employable, explore routes to land jobs at places that satisfy the political do-gooder side of myself, and that offers me the same pay, benefits, and career security as private industry. This is a moonshot: the one that makes sense for me to do.
Life is short and hard even for the most fortunate of us. And that’s why, whatever you have chosen to work on, it has to be worthy of your time here. Because if you have any success at all, it will take up at least a decade of your life. And if you’re really lucky, you get to work on it for multiple decades.
I stopped by Austin for the FinOpsX conference, an amazing little thing put on by … maybe the Linux Foundation through some other community community, idk.
Anyway, it was really amazing. Open source is just so much fun, I’m really glad that I found it all those years ago. This conference was smallish, like 400 people, but had all the open source vibes that the Drupal scene had back in the day, or the Python scene had the only time I dipped my toes in a few years back.
John Grubb
Whatever you need to help you feel successful is helpful to get you to the place of being successful, as long as you don’t confuse it with success itself.
https://www.ignoredbydinosaurs.com/posts/success
I work with a guy. He’s incredibly smart. He’s the seniormost developer here, and if you need to learn something new and get something large done, he’s the guy to do it. We basically dropped him off in the AWS jungle and told him to learn Hadoop and the entire Hadoop ecosystem for a data warehouse project and he did it.
I work with another guy. He’s also incredibly smart. But he asks me for the answer before attempting to find it on his own more often than not. He’s got a point when he says “it’s a lot faster for me to just ask you rather than spend time trying to find it on my own”, because he’s here to do a job after all. I get that. But the best analogy I can come up with is a spin on the old adage -
You can give a man a fish, and he eats for a day. You can teach a man to fish and he eats for a lifetime.
There’s a third kind of person, though - the person who goes out and finds out about fishing on their own and then teaches themselves how to fish. This person will be your boss, and will always be employed.
Finance
Finance
Sparkle House
Sparkle House
Friends
Friends
Other
Places In St Pete
Old Front Page