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= The Media Project =
My forties (and the tail end of my thirties) are for practical things, for building core memories with family and friends, and for building a sense of home.  Let creativity be a small part of it.


I probably won't name it "Gynergy".  I just had the URL.  But maybe I will?
=To Do=


== Target Reader ==
When you don’t have a realistic plan, you end up working inefficiently, which means you end up overworking.


=== Primary Traits ===
What are all the ways I am overworking?


'''The target reader is a college-educated, middle-class Millennial woman.  She is driven to create social change (especially for women's rights), intelligent, intellectually curious, a deep thinker, and inclined to spirituality.  She is family-oriented and values domestic life, but also has interests outside the home.  She is vigilant about protecting herself, other women, and children from creepy men, and is willing to go against the grain to do so.  She values the good men in her life.  She is strategic and seeks power for herself and the groups that advocate for her interests.'''


She cares a lot about '''politics''', but may not have found her feet for becoming politically engaged.  She considers herself a bridge-builder and seeks to understand and ally with women across party lines.  She may identify as progressive because of their reputation for promoting gender equality and freedoms for women.  She may identify as conservative due to their reputation for promoting family life, sex-based rights, and protections for children.  She has reservations about the behavior of both parties, but there may be one side that she considers to be the real enemy, and the other side that she considers to be basically good but in need of reform.
Daily:
* Wake up, walk downtown and back, breakfast
* 2h Sophos, lunch, nap
* Up, 1h non-work work
* Free for social stuff and contemplating life


She has had experiences with '''entitled men''', including sexual harassment, potentially violence and manipulation in relationships, and intellectual dismissal.  Fixing this for herself and other women is a primary political driver for her.  She recognizes and values strong male allies.


She is '''family-oriented'''.  She wants to form a healthy, safe family, where she is respected and has opportunities to pursue her interests outside of the home.  She may have already found this, and values it highly.  She may be single longterm because of a scarcity of opportunities.  If she is straight, the problem is probably a lack of quality men who share her values; if she is gay, the problem is probably leftist capture of lesbian communities.  She wants to strategize to help women collectively create a great family life for themselves and strengthen family life in America.  She seeks a return to a culture where domestic life is centered and treated with importance.
This Week:
* Return exercise bike
* Gently address realistic discomfort at work
* Slowly enjoy and digest Built From Broken
* Skim and enjoy How To Listen So Kids Will Talk


She is concerned about the '''well-being of children''' because of issues like online porn and gender ideology.  If she has children, this is probably a primary driver for her.  If she doesn't have children, it is probably a secondary driver.


She has had at least one significant experience with '''creepy leftist capture in her intellectual, professional, or values-based networks'''.  This could be in a political group, at church, at a university, at work, in social justice advocacy, an arts community, etc.  She feels a loss because of this.  She may have also had experiences with conservative capture or "anti-woke left" capture.
Current Priorities:
* Work: Assert myself, be physically ready for 2h focused work every day
* Health: Circadian Rhythm, Biomechanics, Better Blood
* Family & Kids: Create opportunities for listening and bonding
* Finance: Organize checking accounts, make unemployment plan (LOC)


=== Four Driving Forces ===
=Health=


These are the drivers:
[[Cardiac]]
# Full participation in political, intellectual, artistic, and spiritual life (Smarmy male intellectuals, capture of our networks by entitled men and creepy leftism, exaggerated claims of brain sex)
# Sexual safety and sexual agency (Reining in male sexual entitlement, harassment, violence, porn, internet woman-hating)
# Forming safe, healthy families (Vetting men and creating a good social environment; for lesbians, navigating a captured community)
# Protecting our children (Parental rights, gender ideology, sexual content in schools, internet porn)


For most women who care about badly behaved men and intellectual networks, and who also have children, they care about their children the most.  I don't have children, but I hope I will, and then I hope that I will care about protecting them more than I care about anything else.
[[Nominal Aphasia]]


The magazine provides a vision for the life our reader wants.  We publish on women's art, literature, philosophy, history, and spirituality, along with recipes and other trappings of domestic life, dating tips, etc.
[[Appt Notes]]


We also strategize about to solve the problems we all see happening.  However, we do this from a base vision of a life that is already pretty good.  Our aspirational reader is not in crisis, but she does see problems and wants to help solve them. 
[[Leg Pain]]


I want to avoid the crisis mindset.  Women who aren't in crisis are driven away by a crisis mindset, and women who ''are'' in crisis get worse when immersed in it.  A "good life" environment will be familiar for women who aren't in crisis, and healing for women who are.
[[Gluteal Tendinopathy]]


==== A Note On Abortion ====
[[Metabolism]]


For many politically active women, abortion is a very intense subject, and they prioritize it above all.  This is true on both sides of the abortion line.  We treat abortion as a "compassion topic" and seek to create understanding across the line.  This means we will lose all of the women who care about abortion (on either side) more than they care about our driving forces.  That's okay.
[[Supplements]]


=== Secondary Traits ===
[[Inner Wellness]]


She wants to process this stuff with other women who get it, but she doesn't want to go deep into anger or obsession.
==Food==


She may be a liberal-leaning woman who is "peaked" or "peaking", or she may be a conservative-leaning woman who is frustrated by some aspects of conservative leadership. 
[[List of foods to remind me of variety]]


She is troubled by certain behaviors of feminist organizations: the aggressive push for inclusion of trans-identified males, and the promotion of sex work and hookup culture.  She also has reservations about conservative leadership in regard to women's rights.
==Adaptive Devices==


She may have a complicated relationship with her church of origin, whether or not she is still a member of the church.  She is interested in discussing faith and theology with women who are members of other religions.
[[Biomechanics and Movement]]


She has a nostalgia for some aspects of the past, but is vigilant about backsliding to the dark aspects of the past, especially for women.
[[Bunions]]


She is enthusiastic about building bridges with women who disagree with her, but might need some help.
===Home Environment===


She considers herself a gay ally, or may be gay herself.
[[Active Sitting / Ergonomics]]


She cares a lot about politics, but has not yet made the leap to being active in politics.  She may not have drawn the direct line yet between the changes she wants for the country and her own ability to go knock on doors.  She could use a nudge, and a politically active community who gets her.
[[Sunlight Computer]]


== Our Network ==
==Misc==


Maintain OUR OWN center of gravity.
[[Airway]]


I don't want the people in St Pete to feel like this "came from the internet", or is Internetty.  But I do need to tell them about FDS and Nina Paley.
[[Leaky Gut]]


Maintain just enough of a presence in online spaces that the women who are there can find us.  Argue with them on Twitter; converse with them on Substack; be a guest on their podcast.  But, maintain OUR OWN center of gravity that is elsewhere.
=Better Blood=


There are wonderful, brilliant, politically informed women who are socially isolated because of creepy leftist capture in intellectual and political networks.
[[Legal Justice]]


Conservative and "anti-woke liberal" spaces are also captured in different ways.  All of these spaces are fundamentally captured by male interests.
[[Better Blood]]


Places to maintain a presence:
=FinOps=
- Anti-woke networks
- Feminist networks
- Conservative women's networks
- Arts and literature networks
- Religious networks?


== Purpose of the Project ==
Once I am at the next level in my career and highly employable, explore routes to land jobs at places that satisfy the political do-gooder side of myself, and that offers me the same pay, benefits, and career security as private industry.  This is a moonshot: the one that makes sense for me to do.


I had several friends and authors who helped me see politics and culture in a new way, when I was making the journey from non-politically-active progressive loyalist to sort-of-politically-active nonpartisan feminist. I'd like to do a knowledge dump of all of that, plus other topics that I think will be relevant for that audience.
Life is short and hard even for the most fortunate of us. And that’s why, whatever you have chosen to work on, it has to be worthy of your time here. Because if you have any success at all, it will take up at least a decade of your life. And if you’re really lucky, you get to work on it for multiple decades.  


I love history, and would like to include a lot of content on the history of women and our political projects.
I stopped by Austin for the FinOpsX conference, an amazing little thing put on by … maybe the Linux Foundation through some other community community, idk.


I'm also including mental health, mindfulness, and physical health as a topic, because a lot of women involved in this stuff need that.
Anyway, it was really amazing. Open source is just so much fun, I’m really glad that I found it all those years ago. This conference was smallish, like 400 people, but had all the open source vibes that the Drupal scene had back in the day, or the Python scene had the only time I dipped my toes in a few years back.


When I write naturally, it comes out a little bit silly and very unserious, so I want to lean into that when it's appropriate (ie not on highly emotional or dark topics).
John Grubb


= History: How Does Change Happen?  What's Happening Next? =
Whatever you need to help you feel successful is helpful to get you to the place of being successful, as long as you don’t confuse it with success itself.


[[A History of Women, Gay People, and Gender-Diverse People in American Politics]]
https://www.ignoredbydinosaurs.com/posts/success


[[Side Trip: Aristasia]]
I work with a guy. He’s incredibly smart. He’s the seniormost developer here, and if you need to learn something new and get something large done, he’s the guy to do it. We basically dropped him off in the AWS jungle and told him to learn Hadoop and the entire Hadoop ecosystem for a data warehouse project and he did it.


= Current Events =
I work with another guy. He’s also incredibly smart. But he asks me for the answer before attempting to find it on his own more often than not. He’s got a point when he says “it’s a lot faster for me to just ask you rather than spend time trying to find it on my own”, because he’s here to do a job after all. I get that. But the best analogy I can come up with is a spin on the old adage -


= Politics: Who's Doing What, and How You Can Help Them =
You can give a man a fish, and he eats for a day. You can teach a man to fish and he eats for a lifetime.


=== [[Civics, Institutional Power, and Social Change]] ===
There’s a third kind of person, though - the person who goes out and finds out about fishing on their own and then teaches themselves how to fish. This person will be your boss, and will always be employed.


https://xkcd.com/1028/


==== Understanding Institutional Capture ====


==== Nonpartisan Feminism ====


Most of the ideas in here come from / were heavily inspired by Natasha Chart's book, Practical Politics for Bold Women.  Buy it here! - https://chartconsulting.samcart.com/products/practical-politics-for-bold-women


What is the solution to capture of feminism by the left, and the possibility of future capture of women's organizations by the right?  I think the best defense is small, fiercely independent women's organizations that know how to collaborate across ideological lines, but also are structured so that they can withdraw support, without incurring damage, when their needs are no longer being met by an old coalition.


Whatever network you are part of, they should feel like they have to be on their toes a little bit, because if they no longer hold up their end of the bargain, women's groups can walk away.
=from Reddit =


This also goes for organizing for LGB people and gender-diverse people.
Its not that they hate recommendations, its that you have an opportunity to uplevel yourself and your skills - and it sounds like you really haven't taken it. Managing costs is one bucket of discipline. However, if we're truly measuring money, you have an opportunity to learn how to measure, execute and track on "opportunity cost".


= Social Issues =
Sure the engineering team can execute on recommendations to reduce recurring running costs. It is fiscally prudent and responsible in a vacuum. At the same time, features or revenue growth initiatives can be orders of magnitude more valuable than executing on cost reduction opportunities. If engineering allocates the time and resources (money) to reduce a recurring cost, it is at the expense of:


Child Safeguarding
The opportunity cost of not working on those other revenue growth initiatives.
The break-even return value of the recommendation (remember they've got to invest time to execute).
Here is the kicker for you - if you possess the skills to craft a single total ROI message in consideration of the two points above ; then you will naturally drop a chunk of your recommendations. The numbers will say its fiscally irresponsible to be investing on your existing "FinOps recommendations". At the same time, the recommendations you bring forward will generally have a high uptake rate because the break-even value is near term (weeks/days or yesterday) - or the opportunity cost of everything else is worse than missing out on those recurring savings. In the AWS-land, that usually centers around logging and CloudWatch usage where you can quickly realize 90% cost reductions in the magnitudes of hundreds of thousands with a break-even in less than 1 month.


Domestic Violence and Sexual Violence
If you can do that - you'll have the foundations to compete for a CFO position within your career. If you cant - you will forever be relegated to the finance controller minion who will struggle to get their recommendations adopted by the other organizations. In the off-chance you make a CFO role, a fiscally responsible board will remove you when your aim is to save peanuts at the expense of missing out on acquiring a large customer base.


Commercial Sexual Exploitation
An analogy would be a hotel offering food services (breakfasts, lunches, dinners). There is a ton of food waste (possibly quite literally a ton).


==Women's Status:==
Can they optimize? Yes.
Should they optimize for responsibility to society? Yes.
Should they do it fiscally? No.
Why? The revenue comes in from selling the room. The spoilage is fiscally insignificant. It is fiscally irresponsible for the company to invest in that waste reduction.


In Public Spaces
=Finance =


In the Workplace
[[Finance]]


Financial Status
=Sparkle House=


Public Leadership
[[Sparkle House]]


Church
=Style & Grooming=


[[Style & Grooming]]


=Friends=


== Compassion Topics ==
[[Friends]]


[[Abortion]]
=Writing=


[[Saving Democracy]]
[[The Householders]]


[[How Are Women And Men The Same, And How Are We Different?]]
[[The View From Sunshine City]]


= [[Personal Strength]] =
[[Other Writing]]


== Mindfulness ==
Interview w JK Rowling: https://web.archive.org/web/20080623145514/www.scholastic.com/harrypotter/books/author/interview2.htm
 
== Behavioral Health and Good Habits ==
 
THESE - Temperature, Hydration, Eating, Sleeping, Exercise
 
I made up this acronym during a time when I was *not* doing well, and I'm still proud of it.
 
Originally I used THESE BFUP, where THESE is physical stuff and BFUP is higher-level stuff.  BFUP is Belonging, Fun, Unwinding, and Purpose.  It's supposed to be pronounced "beef up", as in "These beef up your health and wellness!"  I decided it was more memorable just as THESE.
 
 
=== My checklist ===
 
First, I go through the THESE checklist:
 
'''Temperature''': Is it too warm or cold where I am? 
 
'''Hydration''': Do I need a glass of water, other beverage, or watery food? 
 
I like water, but if you don't, you don't have to drink water. There's nothing magical about water that exists in a glass by itself. The water in diet root beer is the same water. Just watch out for sugar and caffeine.
 
You can also get water from eating fruit, but that's a slippery slope, because the water in the fruit is also used by your body to help digest the fruit, so you're getting less for hydration. 
 
There is a melon that contains a lot of water. I'll leave it to you to guess which melon it is.
 
'''Eating''': Have I eaten a moderate amount of healthy food today?
 
'''Sleeping''': Have I slept enough?
 
'''Exercise''': Have I gone on a nice walk, done some yoga, gone on a fun bike ride?
 
== Boundaries and "Winning Therapy" ==
 
== Trauma Healing ==
 
== Physical Health ==
 
[[Healthy Skincare: Sunscreen, Makeup, Soap]]
 
[[Health Tips For Fat Ladies]]
 
== Financial Health ==
 
=== [[Low-Effort Backyard Gardening in Central Florida]] ===
 
== Social Health ==
 
How To Meet Friends Who Share Your Values
 
How To Navigate Friendships Across Ideological Lines
 
== Spiritual Health ==
 
 
[[Temp Link]]
 
= [[Faith and Theology]] =
 
[[Women and the Major World Religions]]
 
[[Commentary on the Divine Feminine from the Major World Religions]]
 
[[Perennialism]]
 
[[Prehistoric Religion]]
 
[[Deanism and Filianism]]
 
[[An Atheist Lesbian Desister's Favorite Catholic Takes on Gender Ideology]]
 
ebony.clayton@yahoo.com - interview her!

Latest revision as of 01:08, 1 November 2025

My forties (and the tail end of my thirties) are for practical things, for building core memories with family and friends, and for building a sense of home. Let creativity be a small part of it.

To Do

When you don’t have a realistic plan, you end up working inefficiently, which means you end up overworking.

What are all the ways I am overworking?


Daily:

  • Wake up, walk downtown and back, breakfast
  • 2h Sophos, lunch, nap
  • Up, 1h non-work work
  • Free for social stuff and contemplating life


This Week:

  • Return exercise bike
  • Gently address realistic discomfort at work
  • Slowly enjoy and digest Built From Broken
  • Skim and enjoy How To Listen So Kids Will Talk


Current Priorities:

  • Work: Assert myself, be physically ready for 2h focused work every day
  • Health: Circadian Rhythm, Biomechanics, Better Blood
  • Family & Kids: Create opportunities for listening and bonding
  • Finance: Organize checking accounts, make unemployment plan (LOC)

Health

Cardiac

Nominal Aphasia

Appt Notes

Leg Pain

Gluteal Tendinopathy

Metabolism

Supplements

Inner Wellness

Food

List of foods to remind me of variety

Adaptive Devices

Biomechanics and Movement

Bunions

Home Environment

Active Sitting / Ergonomics

Sunlight Computer

Misc

Airway

Leaky Gut

Better Blood

Legal Justice

Better Blood

FinOps

Once I am at the next level in my career and highly employable, explore routes to land jobs at places that satisfy the political do-gooder side of myself, and that offers me the same pay, benefits, and career security as private industry. This is a moonshot: the one that makes sense for me to do.

Life is short and hard even for the most fortunate of us. And that’s why, whatever you have chosen to work on, it has to be worthy of your time here. Because if you have any success at all, it will take up at least a decade of your life. And if you’re really lucky, you get to work on it for multiple decades.

I stopped by Austin for the FinOpsX conference, an amazing little thing put on by … maybe the Linux Foundation through some other community community, idk.

Anyway, it was really amazing. Open source is just so much fun, I’m really glad that I found it all those years ago. This conference was smallish, like 400 people, but had all the open source vibes that the Drupal scene had back in the day, or the Python scene had the only time I dipped my toes in a few years back.

John Grubb

Whatever you need to help you feel successful is helpful to get you to the place of being successful, as long as you don’t confuse it with success itself.

https://www.ignoredbydinosaurs.com/posts/success

I work with a guy. He’s incredibly smart. He’s the seniormost developer here, and if you need to learn something new and get something large done, he’s the guy to do it. We basically dropped him off in the AWS jungle and told him to learn Hadoop and the entire Hadoop ecosystem for a data warehouse project and he did it.

I work with another guy. He’s also incredibly smart. But he asks me for the answer before attempting to find it on his own more often than not. He’s got a point when he says “it’s a lot faster for me to just ask you rather than spend time trying to find it on my own”, because he’s here to do a job after all. I get that. But the best analogy I can come up with is a spin on the old adage -

You can give a man a fish, and he eats for a day. You can teach a man to fish and he eats for a lifetime.

There’s a third kind of person, though - the person who goes out and finds out about fishing on their own and then teaches themselves how to fish. This person will be your boss, and will always be employed.




from Reddit

Its not that they hate recommendations, its that you have an opportunity to uplevel yourself and your skills - and it sounds like you really haven't taken it. Managing costs is one bucket of discipline. However, if we're truly measuring money, you have an opportunity to learn how to measure, execute and track on "opportunity cost".

Sure the engineering team can execute on recommendations to reduce recurring running costs. It is fiscally prudent and responsible in a vacuum. At the same time, features or revenue growth initiatives can be orders of magnitude more valuable than executing on cost reduction opportunities. If engineering allocates the time and resources (money) to reduce a recurring cost, it is at the expense of:

The opportunity cost of not working on those other revenue growth initiatives. The break-even return value of the recommendation (remember they've got to invest time to execute). Here is the kicker for you - if you possess the skills to craft a single total ROI message in consideration of the two points above ; then you will naturally drop a chunk of your recommendations. The numbers will say its fiscally irresponsible to be investing on your existing "FinOps recommendations". At the same time, the recommendations you bring forward will generally have a high uptake rate because the break-even value is near term (weeks/days or yesterday) - or the opportunity cost of everything else is worse than missing out on those recurring savings. In the AWS-land, that usually centers around logging and CloudWatch usage where you can quickly realize 90% cost reductions in the magnitudes of hundreds of thousands with a break-even in less than 1 month.

If you can do that - you'll have the foundations to compete for a CFO position within your career. If you cant - you will forever be relegated to the finance controller minion who will struggle to get their recommendations adopted by the other organizations. In the off-chance you make a CFO role, a fiscally responsible board will remove you when your aim is to save peanuts at the expense of missing out on acquiring a large customer base.

An analogy would be a hotel offering food services (breakfasts, lunches, dinners). There is a ton of food waste (possibly quite literally a ton).

Can they optimize? Yes. Should they optimize for responsibility to society? Yes. Should they do it fiscally? No. Why? The revenue comes in from selling the room. The spoilage is fiscally insignificant. It is fiscally irresponsible for the company to invest in that waste reduction.

Finance

Finance

Sparkle House

Sparkle House

Style & Grooming

Style & Grooming

Friends

Friends

Writing

The Householders

The View From Sunshine City

Other Writing

Interview w JK Rowling: https://web.archive.org/web/20080623145514/www.scholastic.com/harrypotter/books/author/interview2.htm

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